I am unable to think about, much less participate in, sex. I want to explore this in the context of my depression and sleep problems, maybe understanding/addressing it will help.
I've never had sex, or a girlfriend. I don't masturbate, since it was an exercise in futility. I can ejaculate but it's never felt "good". I don't think about having sex, but I recollect that normal, healthy guys think about sex once every 10 seconds. (!) I cannot force myself to picture a sex act, its like my mind has to jump past it. But, I do obsess about my inability ... every day I think about how I'm inferior. This makes me wonder if there is somebody out there to talk to about this. Sex therapy is about couples, so that's not for me. Is there help out there?
I have sought help for depression, poor sleep, and low testosterone.
I suffer from chronic depression (severe, if you believe online tests). Over the past 20 years, I've seen two psychoanalysts and a psychologist for therapy. Primary care physicians and a psychiatrist have subscribed 1/2-dozen anti-depressants, mostly SSRIs. Neither therapy nor drugs have helped. I've also tried herbal supplements, kept a diary with thought analysis, improved exercise, and adopted two cats.
I've also attacked the poor sleep aspect (depression can cause sleep problems or vica versa). I had a sleep study, but they were only interested in finding obstructive sleep apnea (which they did, and I've been using a CPAP for the last two years without fail). I'm taking care to exercise good sleep hygene, tried sleep aides (nytol, melatonin, zolpidem, etc.), got a new mattress, prop up legs, and have a wedge pillow for my head. Nothing works.
My testosterone did test low (~190 ng/ml, normal 300-800). I saw an endocrinologist (and, typical for a doctor, couldn't find a cause) who prescribed hormone replacement with patches (vs. gel or shots). I did try the patches, which didn't make me feel different but I did get a rash.
What's left to try? I'm 40 years old, and thinking that I should just give up.
So my girlfriend stayed the night last night, and we attempted to have sex. She's a virgin, I am not. Well, it was a freaking nightmare! We kiss, and make out every time we are together and do lots of foreplay which I am fine with, and dont feel like im going to ejaculate extremely quick. She gives me blowjobs quite often, and i can totally control myself during a bl0wjob. One time it lasted for up to an hour of her steadily giving me a blowjob just because I held it in. So we got to the business since she was staying the night, got ready for sex...had lots of foreplay, she was giving me a han.djob to get me erect and I had no problem with that, out of nowhere she pushes me down onto my back and gets on top of me, and i was pretty surprised too because she is a virgin and didnt think she would take charge. I kept my erection and I was totally unaware that i was going to bust any second, I started to put my penis in and got about two pumps in before I had to pull out to ejaculate :/ It was so embarrassing, I told her that she gave me a handjob too long, jokingly..but in reality she didn't and i just lost control..It was the most frustrating thing that has EVER happened to me and i felt like a 14 year old kid. So we waited about 20 minutes and started going at it again, but lucky me...i couldn't get hard again because i was so stressed out!
Anyways, i just wanna know is this what you would consider SEVERE premature ejaculation? I've had sex with my ex girlfriend probably like 40 times but she was a partier, and when im intoxicated I can go for an hour, no joke. But if im not intoxicated, I cant last two pumps.
Also wanna add, this girl is VERY attractive and i think thats part of the reason...im getting too turned on? I just wanna be able to make her first time enjoyable and something she will remember, because those two pumps do not count. We've been together for a very long time and its something we saved up for. I wanna please my girlfriend more than anything in the whole world,
I know about kegal exercises...they are kind of a pain though...but in the long run are they worth it?
I think the start stop masturbation method is useless, I do it sometimes and it has not helped.
Is there any herbal supplements i can buy at a regular drug store to help this?
I just need someone to help me out here, without going to the doctor. Any input is greatly appreciated! Thank you.
Forgot to add that I usually masturbate twice a day when she's not with me, sometimes to porn. Is this a factor? Some people say its good to masturbate and that it helps, but I think i am doing it too much. It takes 15 minutes or so but my hand is nothing like a vagina.
Also is it possible for my penis to be overly sensitive? Because the gland beneath my head seems to be super sensitive since i stimulate that alot during masturbation.
Forgot to add that I usually masturbate twice a day when she's not with me, sometimes to porn. Is this a factor? Some people say its good to masturbate and that it helps, but I think i am doing it too much. It takes 15 minutes or so but my hand is nothing like a vagina.
Also is it possible for my penis to be overly sensitive? Because the gland beneath my head seems to be super sensitive since i stimulate that alot during masturbation.
My anxiety attacks cause my guts to tighten up and be painful so much that I'm have to lie down and put a heating pad over my stomach'l area to try and soothe it. I determined today that I have to force myself to not eat anymore. I can live on herbal supplements I think.
However, what if this is something more serious that mimics anxiety attacks, but it really is a deadly eel inside me or something?
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Tod m, it's very odd I'd show symptoms of diabetes, for I drink only water and organic rosehip loose tea. I eat rolled oats for breakfast, tahini and organic jam sandwich for lunch, and a brown rice or pasta-based dinner. I then have these anxiety attacks through the day, usually every day. Anyway, I keep it very healthy. The only questionable thing I eat is the pasta, for it might turn into sugar in my stomach, but I try to make it aldente every time. I use organic sesame oil, organic sesame tahini, organic olive oil, vegetables (probably GMO), etc. I stay way from fructose.
foreign country ? Say... galamantine, a substance made from red lillies or something. It's prescription here in America. Does that mean it's basically a 'controlled substance', as illegal as cocaine or LSD ?
According to Chinese Astrology, I was born in the Rat year with Wood element, and it's a Yang. What type of businesses suit me best? Please give real-life examples, not just "wood" or "water" etc.
And while we're at this, do you know any website URLs or books that explains how to determine what profession/business belongs to what element? (e.g. selling clothes belongs what element? what about selling herbal supplements? etc.)
This is the same philosophy Pharmakill has. "Everyone's the same; let's drug them all the same." No, I actually have a condition (hypersensitivity) that can't be cured and doesn't respond to treatments like other insomnia conditions respond to. The one and only solution that has ever worked is sleeping in a quiet place. I now live in a quiet area, but the person in the house is noisy.
I use the silicone earplugs. I eat well. I take herbal supplements. It's been 7 years - I've tried many things. Mixing Percocet with alcohol works, but I don't think that's a good treatment. Carbon monoxide works, but that's too much like dying. They're the only medications I've found to stop the insomnia. This sleep-loss affects everything in me.
My only antidote is to move into a quiet place. Where can I find one??????????
Look up the definition of insomnia. Nowhere does it say that the patient doesn't want to sleep. Mine started in 2005 and can't be cured. I don't know where to go; I'm cursed to wander this Earth until I die. I can end it right now and stop my suffering, but the cure is so easy and so possible. All it takes is a little human kindness, but obviously, that's too much to ask. Where am I supposed to go?
@JMITW, a trailer costs too much. I didn't IGNORE your advice. Don't give me that "You get what you deserve" bull. Someday you'll get what you deserve. jk.
@SpicyIcee, BINGO! There's something deeper, yes. Brain damage is the root cause. When healers prayed for me, they healed some symptoms, or it wasn't they, but the medium, and the root cause is still there; brain damage. I fail to understand why their god would heal my symptom, but not the root cause. Hmm. Perhaps the root cause is a necessary part of my reason to be on this Earth; to identify and expose the sensitive one from the many who are cruel, stereotyping and bull-headed ones, such as all but one landlord I ever met. 23 times moving in 10 years; Lord have mercy.
Today, I had a 3-hour anxiety attack, and I was lying down on the floor in school. This condition really sucks. The counselor ended up stopping the attack as I spoke with her. She said I need TLC, tender-loving care. You know, people actually die from this kind of anxiety. I need a tender-loving care nurse. Any volunteers?
so im 15 and a sophomore in highschool and the year is half way over and about 2 weeks befor school started in drivers ed class i started feeling nauseous. i thought it was nothing until it kept happening and happening. then school started and the same thing would happen id feel sick. then it just got to a point where it was so bad i couldnt go to school for about 2 weeks i went to 2 different hospitles me and my mom thinking it was my gal bladder or some other thing and doctors found nothing. so day by day i just have to suffer through school feeling horrible and me and my mom found a website with a whole bunch of anxiety disorders and stuff. so me and my mom now think its social anxiety disorder and most of my symptoms match up to the websites. so ive tried herbal supplements like st johns wart.these meds have not been working so i stopped and now im taking nausea and stomach pain relief medicine from the doctor which hasnt been working also. so now im going to counsiling and seeing how this will help and like i said the first semester just ended and now im out of health class and in speech. and im flipping out everyday and i have a speech to make tuesday and i just need some technics or anything that can help.
Lunch- Lasagna or chicken mushroom sauce and couscous
Dinner- Fruit salad and oat cakes
I generally cant eat dinner and lunch, I go for a run before breakfast 4x a week and I drink a ton of herbal tea, fruit juice and water. I also take vitamin c supplements.
Im a bit lactose intolerant so I stay away from yoghurt, milk etc.
Please do not answer with the birth control pill. Three months ago I stopped taking the pill for important reasons. My acne before the pill was all over my back, face, and a little on the chest area. Going on the pill it went away, but now that i'm off it it's back- and it's worse than ever before. I have no desire to go to a dermatologist since I know my acne is caused by a hormonal imbalance. Does anyone have remedies for either a hormonal imbalance, or acne? For instance, I've tried herbal supplements like the maca root, or tea tree oil for blemish control. Other suggestions along those lines would be welcome.
I should also note: I am perfectly healthy. I exercise an hour a day, drink tons of water, take zinc, b-complex, fish oil, have a perfectly balanced diet with occasional indulgences. I know that nothing in my diet is causing my acne because I've eaten the same foods since being on the pill and off the pill- the only variable was the pill.
I have diabetes, and my doctor wants me to take baby aspirin. However, I try to stick to herbal supplements unless absolutely necessary.
White Willow Bark is basically used to make aspirin, so I want to use that instead. However, all the sources I read say that people with diabetes shouldn't take white willow bark, yet I have no idea why (especially since they say the same about aspirin!).
So is a low dose of WWB a safe replacement for baby aspirin, or is there really a danger to taking it every day?
I don't take any other medications (other than supplements). My diabetes has been very well controlled with diet alone.
Bromelian is an herbal anti-inflammatory, possible immunomodulator, and it's supposed to help digest proteins as well. Oleoresins in Ginger are well known for the beneficial effects on the GI tract, and ginger also has anti-inflammatory effects. Both of the above do not have any of the negative effects that NSAIDs do on the GI tract. Probiotics increase the 'good' bacteria which has been proven to be lacking in people with IBD.
Is this a good combination to try to reduce as of yet undiagnosed inflammation in the distal ileum? Obviously one 'working' theory is IBD, but overuse of NSAIDs could have been the cause as well. IN either case, will the above supplements possibly help? Or at the very least will any of the above hurt anything to try?
I mean.... probiotics are in yogurt which is food, and ginger is food as well, and bromelian is from pineapple... so I can't see any issues but thought I'd ask!
I'm 44 years old. I've looked into prescriptions for erectile dysfunction but my insurance does not cover them and they seem to be expensive. Are there less expensive options for Levitra, Viagra, etc? I've seen herbal supplements, over the counter things, etc. Are there any worth trying that are safe to use? Pros and cons?
Kratom it comes in a pill or drink and sdd to help pain. i broke my back at l5 s1 and am in pain every day i am willing to try anything that is LEGAL. i can not have caffeine REALLY CAN NOT and the reading i have found is it is associated with Coffee plant but no info in caffeine. i know the Coffee plant but it says it has a sedative effect not a energy effect unless in small doses i dont understand this at all here is the web sight i found it on
A year ago around thanksgiving I bought this diet supplement pills from "whole foods." I it used on and off when I felt like shedding a few pounds. Now I ran out of them and I can't find the bottle to check what it was. The only thing I remember is the bottle having for written as 4 such as "herbs 4 weight loss". It smells kinda gross and looks green in transparent capsules. I really liked the product and had no side effects.
Any ideas?
I have never seen a supplement company market so may products without so much as a label of ingredients. Furthermore they seem to have a cult like following of wackjob loons that praise the owner as some guru who they are willing to trust with their very lives. I did some research and the guy did prison time for tax evasion of 100M USD which makes him a convicted criminal. Most of the products are China sourced where pollution is just terrible and birth defects have increased last year by 40%. Why in the world would anyone blindly trust a convicted criminal to provide them with health advice and herbal products from a polluted nation like China that has some of the worst pollution on the planet. Most of the products seem to be comprised of roots and herbs that have ZERO nutritional value. I take herbs for desired responses but I never confuse that with REAL nutrition oand nourishment. Furthermore most roots and herbs are diuretics that cause frequent urination which can lead to dehydration, excessive cleansing robs the body of REAL nutrition in i.e. vitamins and minerals. I feel the company is misleading the ignorant at best and actually contributing to poor diet at worst. Please post your opinions., wacky cult followers of the ex-con owner are welcome to post also. Real Nutrition and Nourishment=protein, carbohydrates, vitamins, minerals, etc..
Well me and my friend are both 19, both female and have been moderately close friends for three years at least and I said this to her:
She tells me she cant concentrate on her uni work, I said I take herbal supplements for concentration, I told her ginseng and gingko biloba, when i am working, I then said that one of them increases your sex drive and that I had to stop taking it because mine doesn't need increasing I.e is already high enough. She replied quickly but said that all she needs to do is focus and just said lol after that she just said bye and went to bed. I feel stupid for saying that but I was a jokey comment I made about it, is it a stupid thing to say or ok?
Also to add to that I know she is in love with me and she is a lesbian and I am bisexual and I love her too but she is still in the closet and we haven't declared our love
